Stop Punishing Yourself
Welcome to stop punishing yourself. The only podcast that teaches neurodivergent Alaskans (who are prone to anxiety and depression) how to stop feeling like victims to their brains and start feeling empowered by them. I am your host and neurospicy life coach Ellicia Turner and I promise to take you from codependent and insecure to independent and unstoppable using the spiritual art and science of coaching. If you’re ready to completely reverse the harmful wiring in your brain, free yourself emotionally and take back control from your past social conditioning, then let’s get started.
Episodes
59 episodes
SPY 38: Self Love as The Cure All
Self love is confronting. It holds up a mirror to the prison we tend to put ourselves in. Self love is not to be confused with arrogance or vanity. It is neither of those things. It's safety, respect, and space f...
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Episode 38
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16:59
SPY 37: How to Meditate Your Ass Off
You guys. It feels like summer started yesterday for me. My husband and I had a picnic by the lake. I got to read in the sun, visit a brewery rooftop, play in the sprinkler with my pup. We had a fire in the backy...
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Episode 37
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32:58
SPY 36: Being an Emotional Adult
Emotional Childhood is just a fancy term for chronic blame. Emotional Adulthood is a just a fancy term for habituated responsibility. In emotional childhood we blame all of our problems, emotions, life circumstances, and limits ...
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Episode 36
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16:06
SPY 35: Respect Doesn't Require Fear
Ever notice how respect is oftentimes confused with fear? We weren’t really taught to respect adults growing up… We were taught to fear them.To obey blindly, to conform swiftly, to ...
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Episode 35
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34:40
SPY 34: Deserving vs. Committing
Here’s a wild concept I want you to consider. The universe, God, whatever life force you believe to be in charge of things.. is not out here dividing and distributing some portions to the deserving folk, while withholdin...
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Episode 34
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13:33
SPY 33: You Might Be Neurodivergent
I could have been the poster child for neurodivergence if it was researched as equally in girls as it was in boys back in the 90s. Alas, it was missed, I was masked, and I wouldn’t fully discover the nooks and crannies...
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Episode 33
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24:27
SPY 32: The Most Powerful Exercise
The most powerful exercise? No not physical exercise! You’ll have to ask someone else for that information. I mean, the most powerful LIFE COACHING exercise. If you haven’t already guessed, it’s an EMOTIONAL exer...
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Episode 32
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21:32
SPY 31: The Compare & Despair Cycle
On today’s podcast episode I am inviting ALL of my listeners to join me on zoom tonight for the Compare & Despair Cycle Workshop! There will be massive revelations happening about this ol’ pattern we humans like to c...
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Episode 31
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12:40
SPY 30: You Are Not Wrong: How to Unlearn Wrongness
You are not wrong. Your existence is not wrong. Nothing has gone wrong. You are not wrong. Your existence has never been wrong. Nothing about you is wrong.You are not wrong. Nothing has go...
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Episode 30
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14:12
SPY 29: The Spider Analogy and Our Fear of Feelings
I'm going to make an audacious claim here. You are more afraid of your feelings than you even realize. I'm not saying that to try to judge or shame you. I'm saying that to bring awareness to something that is impacting y...
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Episode 29
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25:04
SPY 28: The Worst That Can Happen
This episode should probably be titled: "Trying to Hide From Shame" but I didn't think of that until after it was recorded.Last night at work I was met face to face with what I had been THINKING was the worst that could happen. ...
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Episode 28
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27:24
SPY 27: How To Be Naive
To our ego, being naive is equivalent to being the sacrificial lamb about to be tossed into the flames. It’s dangerous, frightening, and intolerable. Our ego would much prefer that we already know everything—and be good at it—si...
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Episode 27
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18:25
SPY 26: Just Because You Have A Thought, Doesn't Mean It's True
Say it with me! "Just because you have a thought, doesn't mean it's true!!"Here's what we all need to do. We all need to get a divorce from our thoughts. Right now, our toxic marriage to our thoughts is creating ...
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Episode 26
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20:42
SPY 25: You Are Special And Also... You Are Not Special
Have you ever gone to a doctors or a dentist appointment and expected to receive horrifying news about your body or your gums or your boobs? I have. Many times. Every time I go into a medical setting my body tenses up incredibly...
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Episode 25
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15:49
SPY 24: So What?
If you were sharing something personal and then someone said, "so what?" in response to it, would you be offended? If you asked me this question pre 2017, (and if I had answered honestly) I would have said absolutely YES! My sen...
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Episode 24
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21:46
SPY 23: Thought Errors
What is really standing in the way of you and everything you want? It's not an uphill-100 year battle filled with sacrifice and blood oaths. It's not all the circumstances and people outside of you finally bending to your will. ...
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Episode 23
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17:11
SPY 22: How to Be Unrealistic
How often are you told to be UNrealistic? Not often. Most advisors/mentors/parents will say: “Be reasonable! Be practical! Don’t ask for too much! Play it safe!”This is what we’re taught. This is what we’re told ...
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Episode 22
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20:58
SPY 21: The Ultimate Punishment
When I was in kindergarten I got in trouble for telling a non-christian girl she would go to hell if she didn't accept Jesus into her heart. If I had gone to a christian school I probably would have been praised and gotten extra credit ...
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Episode 21
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16:47
SPY 20: Identity Week-A FREE 5 Day Training
Welcome to a special episode of the podcast. You are officially invited to join me for Identity Week!Identity Week is a FREE 5 day intensive training on locating and eliminating the limiting identities that have been holding yo...
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Episode 20
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21:44
SPY 19: Vision, Commitment & Action
Most of us have no problem envisioning our own demise. We can picture horrifying images in our head of everything that could go wrong, all day long. All the fears, stress, and doubts are easily accessible.
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Episode 19
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26:24
SPY 18: The Science of a Thought Form
I say "thoughts cause your feelings" about 40 times a day. But I feel like the full impact of this sentence just isn't HITTING the way I intend it to. Today I am breaking down and dissecting this phrase, "thoughts caus...
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Episode 18
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24:45
SPY 17: The Candy Land of Decision Making
Hello my fellow earthling. If you have a hard time making quick decisions or getting unstuck, this is the episode for you. The reason your brain spins out in indecision and confusion is because you haven’t given it a cl...
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Episode 17
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19:54
SPY 16: The NEW Purpose of a Relationship
Are you tired of receiving the same old, ancient advice about relationships that no longer applies to this modern (late stage capitalism/divided and conquered) world? There are no more dowries to be handed out (maybe?) and women ar...
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Episode 16
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38:45
SPY 15: The Power of Personal Transformation Questions
I used to go out to the bars on the weekends A LOT more than I do now. I was very eager to go drink some booze—as fast as I could— to finally take the edge off of my debilitating anxiety that I’d been suppressing all week.<...
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Episode 15
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17:17